One of the things that happens mid breakdown especially to single women is they can become promiscuous, even when it isn’t part of their usual make up.
I’ve scoured the internet to find an article on this that doesn’t berate women or make them appear in a bad light and there are very few but not many.
Like it or not our views on sex are steeped in subconscious religious doctrines which themselves are oppressive to women.
As mentioned in my previous blog about online dating sex is as cheap and throw away as a pair of supermarket knickers.
Unfortunately those going through a breakdown have a tendency to abuse alcohol or even drugs as a way of escaping. My preferred self -medication was a drink now and again.
This coupled with a need to be loved and be lovable is a heady combination all ready to play into the hands of those want a hook up or quick shag, a misogynist dream.
When you explore the depths of Tinder for that love and there lies disaster lurking behind every right swipe and filtered smile. This often ends in a series of crazy one night stands and short term love interests.
The mentally fragile one kids themself that they have found love, they invest entirely in every bit of flattery, every arousing and enticing comment, every demand to reveal their bodies via a picture or video call, to be adored in exchange for the classic dick pic. Most of the time these said pictures are copied and pasted from porn sites.
But gullible and blinkered and often
Out of touch with modern dating, women engage in these exchanges.
Women don’t intend to seek ‘hook ups’ they just want to feel attractive or to feel loved and for a split second their unhinged and crazy world feels normal.
For those who have experienced emotional abuse, dating and having sex with multiple partners makes them feel attractive and loved- even if it’s for an hr.
This can become an addictive cycle and rather like that of a drug addict- a hard one to break.
It is for some women it’s their midlife crisis, their red Ferrari or dick extension and the last hope they have possibly having children.
Women in their 40’s become highly sexed and mix that with singledom, a breakdown and alcohol abuse and wow it’s dangerous.
It’s as easy as calling a pizza, it costs nothing for either party apart from emotional damage from the already fragile one.
I used to look at single women of a certain age and turn my nose up at their need for attention and need to look sexy.
I get it now!
Often they don’t plan on meeting lots of men or plan on sleeping around, they are just looking for something to fill the void;give them what they see as a last chance to cash in before their looks fade and they can’t reproduce and then become invisible to the world.
Lise Kaye-Bell 